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That’s the title of the book I'm developing outlining my 8-week program devoted to solving what I call finish-line issues; they’re what get us to mysteriously stop within sight of success. Whether my clients were unsure about which direction to go, stopped short after making progress, or immobilized as they closed in on their aim, they’d applied themselves admirably and were baffled about why they were getting in their own way. They’d come to me highly dissatisfied with the status quo, but unable to change. They reported feeling paralyzed, frustrated, overwhelmed. They were stressed, sad, angry, and scared. “I just don’t get it,” they’d say. “I’m doing everything I can think of. This is what I want more than anything and I just can’t take the next step. Why is this happening?” They’d swear to me that they yearned for the desired outcome with every fiber of their being. But the truth, I’d tell them, is that some of those fibers just aren’t with the program. The secret is not all of you wants what you think you want.
The book will guide you to finding out and learning from the parts of you that are secretly not on board. You will disengage from the hidden parts that may be keeping you from reaching your goals. I’ve identified these inner selves as your shadow identity, the personality built (often unconsciously) around core negative beliefs. In the book you will learn how to shift to a new, healthier identity based on core positive beliefs and tap into these powerful, resilient, problem-solving, joy-filled inner selves that you were not properly accessing before. The premise is every self has wisdom to impart, even the ones that appear dysfunctional. Each self tries to protect our vulnerability, even the ones that seem devoted to undermining and sabotaging our success. Uncovering the secret and potent intentions of your subpersonalities can give you the information you need to solve problems—and the courage to handle change.
This approach works beautifully for people anywhere on the stuckness spectrum—those having trouble launching an endeavor, those mired in the middle, and those who find themselves freezing up on the brink of fruition. What you’ll learn will be a huge help in getting on the right track, making good decisions along the way, maintaining momentum through tough times, and avoiding problems as you head into the home stretch. This is why I’m in the process of writing this book sharing my method which allows people to understand the true sources of their puzzling paralysis and, with surprising swiftness, tap into creative, resourceful aspects of themselves and shift from their identity as stuck to an identity of achieving cherished goals.
The book will guide you to finding out and learning from the parts of you that are secretly not on board. You will disengage from the hidden parts that may be keeping you from reaching your goals. I’ve identified these inner selves as your shadow identity, the personality built (often unconsciously) around core negative beliefs. In the book you will learn how to shift to a new, healthier identity based on core positive beliefs and tap into these powerful, resilient, problem-solving, joy-filled inner selves that you were not properly accessing before. The premise is every self has wisdom to impart, even the ones that appear dysfunctional. Each self tries to protect our vulnerability, even the ones that seem devoted to undermining and sabotaging our success. Uncovering the secret and potent intentions of your subpersonalities can give you the information you need to solve problems—and the courage to handle change.
This approach works beautifully for people anywhere on the stuckness spectrum—those having trouble launching an endeavor, those mired in the middle, and those who find themselves freezing up on the brink of fruition. What you’ll learn will be a huge help in getting on the right track, making good decisions along the way, maintaining momentum through tough times, and avoiding problems as you head into the home stretch. This is why I’m in the process of writing this book sharing my method which allows people to understand the true sources of their puzzling paralysis and, with surprising swiftness, tap into creative, resourceful aspects of themselves and shift from their identity as stuck to an identity of achieving cherished goals.
What is the Final 8th?
It's the term I coined after working with many, many clients--talented, energetic, motivated women and men distressed to find themselves immobilized on the way to a cherished goal, from choosing a career to finding a mate; from getting out of debt to building a boat. Simultaneously concrete and ephemeral, the final eighth refers to the transformational process of taking the steps necessary to complete a project, finish a goal, realize a dream, love yourself and flourish!
Do you find yourself stagnant after doing many, many of the “right” things towards an aspiration? After a tremendous amount of work many people stop at “the final eighth” position. They are unable to continue, yet are highly dissatisfied with the status quo. Whether it’s relationships, career or health, are you unhappily stalled in a familiar orbit of disappointment? You have your act together, you seem to be in high gear, you’re doing everything you can consciously think of to reach your goal, you’re getting good feedback. And yet... you stop.
So what are the first seven eighths?” The first seven eighths refer to all that went before this moment, which can include:
So what are the first seven eighths?” The first seven eighths refer to all that went before this moment, which can include:
- struggling with difficult habits (but aren’t sure how to get positive support)
- discovering your passion (but don’t know how to profit from it)
- gaining physical and emotional health (but aren’t good at maintaining progress)
- getting experience in your field (but are not sure how to make the vertical move)
- studying (but are struggling with incomplete credits)
- committing to a relationship (but are not sure how to live peacefully)
- raising a family (but are struggling with all those competing agendas)
- saying goodbye (but are not sure what to say hello to)
- having and not having money, and having it again but maybe… “oo, la, la” the currency is different (and are not sure how to use the money wisely)
Bridgit's Philosophy
Live
as if at any moment you may get the "absurd good news."
Yes, life has difficulties. But why not choose optimism? Embodying this philosophy allows us to revel in our world that includes tiramisus and tsunamis, salamanders that molt old skin and humans who shed old stories and sashay into new ways of being present.
Here's to cultivating a life of peak experiences
that includes shadow & light!
as if at any moment you may get the "absurd good news."
Yes, life has difficulties. But why not choose optimism? Embodying this philosophy allows us to revel in our world that includes tiramisus and tsunamis, salamanders that molt old skin and humans who shed old stories and sashay into new ways of being present.
Here's to cultivating a life of peak experiences
that includes shadow & light!